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    Tool 06 … Vision

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    A summary of ideas for discussion
     

    • Grow a vision for your family/group/team and for each child in it.
       
    • Begin with the end in mind. (Stephen Covey) Develop some strategies in order to achieve this.
       
    • Good intentions and hope are not all that helpful if that is all you have. Something worth having is worth dreaming and planning for. Your children are worth investing time, energy, resources, and money in. Valuing a vision for each child, or anything for that matter, usually means spending the time, energy, resources and money to achieve that particular vision
       
    • This is an S9 tool
       

Begin with the end in mind.
‣‣‣ Stephen Covey

Good intentions and hope are not all that helpful if that is all you have. Something worth having is worth dreaming and planning for. Your children are worth investing time, energy, resources, and money in. Valuing children, or anything for that matter, usually means spending the time, energy, resources and money to achieve a particular vision.

The following points outline a suggested process for developing a vision for a child.

1. How do you measure success?

2. Divide your responses into two lists.

  • List A: Physical, mental, academic, material … e.g. house, family, good at chosen sport, uni degree, trade, good job, safe behaviours, etc.
  • List B: Emotion, character, values … e.g. self-motivated, honest, reliable, shows initiative, respectful, loving/compassionate to others, generous, thrifty, healthy habits, studious etc.

3. Take some time to develop a few of the words in List B along the following lines:

  • What would you consider to be desirable characteristics, values, attributes and or behaviours associated with each word in your list?
  • What would you hope for … how would this be demonstrated when your child is 7, 17 & 27 years of age?
  • Imagine someone is writing a reference for your child in 10 years time. What character words or values or other descriptors would you like to see written there?

4. Highlight one or two realistic possibilities from each of the above lists.

  • Write down an appropriate ‘title’ for your parent/teacher/worker role as it might be for a 2yo. (or the age of the child now in your care)
  • Then draw and arrow —>. See examples below.
  • Then write the vision (a sentence or one or two words) you have for your child’s own self disciplined role demonstrating a maturity in that area. (Let’s define maturity as the capacity and the capability to make responsible, healthy, helpful choices for themselves.)

The idea here is to provide a visual representation to show how your role is to decrease releasing your child into maturity. See examples below.

Your parent role now —> Vision for future mature role

  • ‘Study Officer’ —> Self-studious, self-learner, efficient, effective learner  …
  • ‘Safety Manager’ —> Safe! Healthy/helpful choices, risk assessor/manager …
  • ‘Fat Controller’ —> Self-motivated, planner, understands people, High EQ …
  • ‘Master Handyman’ —> Handy! Self-reliant/skilled/safe …
  • ‘Leadership Coach’ —> Leader! Thorough, shows initiative …
  • ‘Resource Provider’ —> Self-resourced, money wise, sees quality  …
  • ‘Finance manager’ —> Thrifty, Self-managed Super Fund,  …

The end won’t happen automatically and process is also just as important. Signing children up to little steps of growing responsibility along the way will be determined by their age, abilities and capacities. Note that ‘maturity’ is not necessarily age related.

Choose your strategies/processes wisely!

Good intentions and hope are not all that helpful if that is all you have. Something worth having is worth dreaming and planning for. Your children are worth investing time, energy, resources, and money in. Valuing children, or anything for that matter, usually means spending the time, energy, resources and money to achieve a particular vision.

The following points outline a suggested process for developing a vision for a child.

  1. How do you measure success?
  2. Divide your responses into two lists.
    •   List 1: Physical, mental, academic, material … e.g. house, family, good at chosen sport, uni degree, trade, good job, safe behaviours, etc.
    •   List 2: Emotion, character, values … e.g. self-motivated, honest, reliable, shows initiative, respectful, loving/compassionate to others, generous, thrifty, healthy habits, studious etc.
  3. Take some time to develop the second list:
    •   What would you consider to be desirable characteristics, values and attributes?
    •   What would you hope for when your child is 7, 17 & 27 years of age?
    •   Imagine someone is writing a reference for your child in 10 years time. What character words or values or other descriptors would you like to see written there?
  4. Highlight one or two realistic possibilities from each of the above lists above. Write down a ‘title’ for your role as it might be for a 2yo. Then draw and arrow —>

Then write the vision you have for your child’s own self disciplined role demonstrating a maturity in that area. Let’s define maturity as the capacity and the ability to make responsible, healthy, helpful choices for themselves

The idea here is to provide a visual representation to show how your role is to decrease releasing your child into maturity. For example, without judgement:

Your parent role now —> Vision for future mature role
•  ‘Study Officer’ —> Self-studious, self-learner
•  ‘Safety Manager’ —> Safe, healthy, helpful choices
•  ‘Motivation Coach’ —> Self-motivated, planner
•  ‘Master Handyman’ —> Handy! self-reliant/skilled/safe
•  ‘Leadership Coach’ —> Leader! thorough, shows initiative
•  ‘Resource Provider’ —> Self-resourced, money wise
•  ‘Finance manager’ —> Self-managed Super Fund

 

The end won’t happen automatically so the process is also just as important as the vision. Signing children up to little steps of growing responsibility along the way will be determined by their age, abilities and capacities. Note that ‘maturity’ is not necessarily age related.

Choose your strategies/processes wisely!

Further Research Questions:

  • Write a vision statement for each child?

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