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    Tool 08 … The art of apology

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    A summary of ideas for discussion


    • When we make mistakes … and we will … healing the relationships with children will help us all to grow and learn.
    • 3 similar paths of apology to explore:
      • Truth ~ confession ~ forgiveness ~ restoration
      • Tender heartedness ~ understanding ~ recognition ~ reconciliation (if appropriate) ~ forgiveness
      • Sorrow ~ responsibility ~ restitution ~ forgiveness ~ repentance
    • This is an RD tool

He that cannot forgive others breaks the bridge over which he
must pass himself; for every man has need to be forgiven.
‣‣‣ Thomas Fuller


Note #1:

This tool is offered as a basis for understanding the concept of forgiveness as a tool for growing great kids.

This is the only tool presented from a Christian world view and from a particular theological viewpoint. If you find yourself already opposed to this world view to any extent, or, on reading, theologically opposed to this view, please ignore this tool and continue to others.

By all means, research the concept, meanings and applications of forgiveness from your own world view and apply it to your context or not as you wish.

This also suggests a great research question: What have you seen or heard about 'forgiveness' that helps to make sense of our parenting role?

Note #2:

An attempt is made below to provide a correlation between each of the patterns of apology A, B, C, D. This correlation is indicated by the numbering system used. (1, 2, 3, 4)

Note #3:

Each pattern uses a different but consistent personal pronoun.

Pattern A: 1 John 1: 5 - 9 … The Bible

1. Truth

"This is the message we have heard from him and proclaim to you, that God is light and in him there is no darkness at all. If we say that we have fellowship with him while we are walking in darkness, we lie and do not do what is true; but if we walk in the light as he himself is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus his Son cleanses us from all sin. If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.

2. Confession

If we confess our sins, ...

3. Forgiveness

God is faithful and just will forgive us our sins and ...

4. Restoration

cleanse us from all unrighteousness."

B: These words help provide a pattern for a process for healing relationships

1. Truth

If we say we haven't stuffed up in a relationship we are probably kidding ourselves. … [ … JOIN for more member-only content]

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